tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post8018596410577261766..comments2023-10-20T08:27:40.314-04:00Comments on male pattern boldness: Things I Don't Get, Vol. 8: ToupeesPeter Lappinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05109154527996679077noreply@blogger.comBlogger67125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-69818093421078624722017-11-30T12:26:56.861-05:002017-11-30T12:26:56.861-05:00It would be interesting to know how many men and w...It would be interesting to know how many men and women intentionally shave their heads today for reasons excluding health issues. As far as wearing a toupee or toupee system that requires an expensive commitment in time or money, it never seemed make sense to me. Interestingly enough I recently discussed the issue of wearing a toupee mostly to get my wife’s reaction. My wife says it would be up to me but she actually prefers me bald with a mustache. She likes how it look and thinks a full head of hair would make me look older at this point. I guess I’ll keep on shaving.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-54256796725648443902017-11-27T17:16:16.464-05:002017-11-27T17:16:16.464-05:00Glad to hear it!Glad to hear it!Peter Lappinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05109154527996679077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-76154864277281752972017-11-27T16:33:55.978-05:002017-11-27T16:33:55.978-05:00This is an older thread but I wanted to contribute...This is an older thread but I wanted to contribute. I began going bald in my mid thirties then it became significant in my early 40s. My wife was the one who suggested trying to see how a shaved head would look on me. She believed my head was the right shape, and since I am a professional but don’t deal with having or maintaining a corporate image I tried it out. Today shaved heads are so common it would not be a concern if I did have a regular corporate job. My wife is pretty honest about things and she said she absolutely loved it. She thought the look of a clean shaved head had the added benefit of making me look younger for some reason. I’ve left stubble on it in the past, but my wife thought the stubble just didn’t look right because of how baldness has progressed. When I looked at the back of my head using a hand held mirror and a large mirror behind me I saw she was also right. I’ve shaved my head smooth for years now. Don’t get me wrong. I’d prefer to have full thick hair but this is fine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-12112317764374305982015-11-26T05:00:49.033-05:002015-11-26T05:00:49.033-05:00I hated to see my bald spot in the mirror. I have...I hated to see my bald spot in the mirror. I have a toupee with a color mismatch but think it looks better than I did before. I'll get a better one next year that will cover my whole head but that's another story. Call me a metrosexual if you want but women's wigs are fake-looking, too. I still expect women to wear them and they look more beautiful with them. Why can't men wear them then? Is everyone sexist? I don't care if bald is natural! I don't like it at all just like I don't like tornadoes and cockroaches which are also natural. When it comes to toupees I think I live in the wrong society. I think most if not all bald men should wear one if they can afford it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-55539472497734632162015-02-04T23:25:02.929-05:002015-02-04T23:25:02.929-05:00Toupees can look real. I know because I recently ...Toupees can look real. I know because I recently reconnected with a childhood friend after 20 years. Last Saturday, he cancelled a ski trip with me cause "I have an appt. to get my wig adjusted" I was shocked (and still am!!) and simply said "Oh, okay" . I really couldn't tell, if he hadn't said anything I never would have known. I would publish his picture but he would surely beat the crap out of me-sorry guys. I should mention that he has tons and tons of cash-maybe that is a factor. I ain't bald, but if I was I would go for it. I think the point here is that if you are going to do it - try hiring a pro and spending some serious cash like he did!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-41365466491365431382014-03-22T16:19:27.266-04:002014-03-22T16:19:27.266-04:00A bald head is ugly as shit - period. For some me...A bald head is ugly as shit - period. For some men loosing their hair is as traumatic as a woman loosing a breast to cancer. The only difference is the man becomes an object of ridicule and disgust. Imagine how a mastectomy patient would feel if she was made into a laughing stock! Some men even commit suicide because they feel so repulsive. You know how you feel when you have a really "bad hair day," one of those days when you don't think you'll have to go out in public but some emergency pops up and you have to go to work or to the hospital. Take that insecure self conscience feeling, magnify it by ten thousand and imagine living every second of your life that way. Then imagine every second person you meet reminds you of how terrible you look. Of course all of the people who harass you have full heads of hair. This has been my existence for years. Is it any wonder some men opt for toupees? They almost always look like hell but for some are the lesser of two evils.Anonpersonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-10937785239751338762014-01-31T06:29:46.017-05:002014-01-31T06:29:46.017-05:00I prefer the look of a man with hair. Some look go...I prefer the look of a man with hair. Some look good bald, but would look even better, to me anyway, with hair. I hate that bald bothers me, but it does. <br /><br />So, I guess I married the right guy, hairwise. We're both 56 now, and he has more, better hair than me. His hairline has barely receded at all, he has about 5% gray, and his hair is healthy, with plenty of shine. His father kept most of his hair well into bis 70s, when he died. I expect hubby will, as well. So, don't assume that all older men with a thick head of ungrayed hair are sporting rugs.<br /><br />I, on the other hand, have a thinning, frizzy, mess. I really wish I hadn't ever started dying it. I can't bear to go through the skunk stripe growing out period, but I really do not want to cut my hair super short, either. If I had a fabulous face, I might have considered that option, but I don't.<br /><br />I guess that's they key. It depends on the face (and the shape of the head, as some have mentioned.) The stronger the face, the less hair is needed. <br /><br />Most men look far better without hair, or with thinning hair, than do women. But if either wants to do something about it, I fully support that. Unless, of course, we're talking comb-overs. Anything approaching "the Donald's" diseased weasel look should be a capital offense.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-22375068924635254762013-02-27T07:21:18.713-05:002013-02-27T07:21:18.713-05:00BINGO ! This is the best way to put it.BINGO ! This is the best way to put it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-78820227859516944352012-11-10T14:04:23.634-05:002012-11-10T14:04:23.634-05:00LOL that's true!LOL that's true!gabyhttp://starsweare.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-69020663642955448812012-11-10T04:35:40.937-05:002012-11-10T04:35:40.937-05:00we once had a teacher at school with a massive com...we once had a teacher at school with a massive combover, and on windy days it would just stick straight up like a giant hairy antenna and reveal his shiny, shiny head to the world.Annekehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06685471808997698424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-73744117362719573742012-11-09T16:23:22.656-05:002012-11-09T16:23:22.656-05:00I don't have much to add to the toupee wearer ...I don't have much to add to the toupee wearer discussion. (I don't think this has become a trend in the black community. We have balding men with half or one third of a head with locs instead. Equally offensive.)<br /><br />I just wanted to point out your glaring omission on the bald/balding and HOT list. STANLEY TUCCI! <br /><br />That is all ;p <br /><br />Nettiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10005830016547676928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-39016109929588055472012-11-08T23:16:44.751-05:002012-11-08T23:16:44.751-05:00Reply to Alex in California: (Sorry, I can't g...Reply to Alex in California: (Sorry, I can't get the 'reply' feature to work on my computer)You asked: Does "size really matter" to women?<br /><br /> I have, over the years, asked MANY women about this, and while yes, there is a faction to whom size DOES matter, I can assure you, that,for the most part: I can declare authoritatively: NOT AS MUCH AS MEN THINK IT DOES.<br /><br /> In fact, a great many women (the majority, in fact) declared that they were actually put off by (or even "AFRAID of") "too much size". Of course, "size' is a relative term; it's a RARE male who isn't convinced that he is "lacking" in that department (the proliferation of pornography is directly to blame for this, I am convinced) even when he is "above average". From a woman's point of view, it's actually pretty RARE that we are put off by "lack of quantity" in THAT department; it's general ineptitude, insensitivity, and poor hygiene that come in as the most "off-putting" factors!Sufiyanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-60308500947683057432012-11-08T21:24:12.589-05:002012-11-08T21:24:12.589-05:00That's 'I truly think he THOUGHT he was fo...That's 'I truly think he THOUGHT he was fooling everyone'.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08972486214877798250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-1495976103921604882012-11-08T21:21:49.966-05:002012-11-08T21:21:49.966-05:00I once worked for a guy who had a set of toupees i...I once worked for a guy who had a set of toupees in gradually longer lengths. He wore them in succession so that he could simulate growing hair. He'd just cycle back to the shortest one to simulate a 'hair cut'!<br /><br />He would have been mortified if he'd heard the comments that were made behind his back. I truly think he was fooling everyone.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08972486214877798250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-62535287933468413092012-11-08T18:54:53.923-05:002012-11-08T18:54:53.923-05:00I love bold men that wear it well- my husband and ...I love bold men that wear it well- my husband and his sibs are all balding and look great. Their father on the other hand has grown out his front tuft into a long swoop and shellacs it into a low ponytail. The boys refer to it as 'Dads windsock'....prttynpnkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16513331416653286924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-87946686937111064782012-11-08T15:05:46.365-05:002012-11-08T15:05:46.365-05:00Comb-overs are hideous, see D. Trump.
I think the ...Comb-overs are hideous, see D. Trump.<br />I think the problem with toupees is that they seldom look like the hair the man should have.<br /><br />Bald is beautiful.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00396360656641592444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-4362457460880752262012-11-08T14:37:45.670-05:002012-11-08T14:37:45.670-05:00Not everyone has a skull shaped right to go hairle...Not everyone has a skull shaped right to go hairless. I'm serious. You need to have a prominent occipital bone to pull it off I think. Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06793295526771577222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-76518191862998780232012-11-08T14:17:07.728-05:002012-11-08T14:17:07.728-05:00OK, I must be very naive, because I'd have nev...OK, I must be very naive, because I'd have never guessed these men wear toupees. They look normal to me (well, except Chuck Norris), in a kitschy way. <br /><br />However, as someone who is terrified of losing my hair someday, I understand the thought process. Not everyone can sport a bald head ... Rosehttp://rosemiracles.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-66763711470399108412012-11-08T13:24:17.308-05:002012-11-08T13:24:17.308-05:00There are some women who look gorgeous without mak...There are some women who look gorgeous without makeup, but they usually are quite young. Most grown women are enhanced by a little makeup. I don't know if most men recognize the difference between a bare face and one with a bit of subtle makeup. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-73539348965521871362012-11-08T13:20:17.486-05:002012-11-08T13:20:17.486-05:00I am one of those people who didn't understand...I am one of those people who didn't understand for a long time what people meant when they said some guy was wearing an "obvious rug."<br /><br />As for toupees, they do seem silly, but it depends on the man. Not everyone looks good with a bald or shaved head. Although I would never insist on it because it's unrealistic, I prefer older men with hair.<br /><br />I don't think Tony Curtis looks bad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-73046932978845678712012-11-08T13:10:06.792-05:002012-11-08T13:10:06.792-05:00Sufia - You're are right about men and what we...Sufia - You're are right about men and what we say about makeup. I don't know what women really prefer regarding men with full heads of hair vs. balding men. What a man thinks the answer to that question may be the reason why he would wear a hairpiece. Do women really mean it when they say size doesn't matter? Alex in Californianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-609716823531910392012-11-08T08:23:11.744-05:002012-11-08T08:23:11.744-05:00Yes, a law to allow forcible grooming!
And while ...Yes, a law to allow forcible grooming!<br /><br />And while we're at it, ear tweezing should be included in the depilatory undressing.<br /><br />Sufiya, I'll put 'em in a head lock, or the much preferred Full Nelson, and you get to clippin' and yankin'. We'll tag-team for humanity.Testosteronenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-7469737157068275992012-11-08T08:17:52.258-05:002012-11-08T08:17:52.258-05:00Is that it? Travolta got hair plugs? I thought i...Is that it? Travolta got hair plugs? I thought it was a strange, short toupee. Whatever it is, a close shave would look so much better. urbanitenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-65560599095802168482012-11-08T07:47:19.186-05:002012-11-08T07:47:19.186-05:00Who is/was doing it right: Jude Law, Ted Danson, ...Who is/was doing it right: Jude Law, Ted Danson, Humphrey Bogart,John Wayne, Ben Affleck. ¿Steve Carell?Madkrakatoahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07197551788337610940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-53953817049857093352012-11-08T02:24:55.538-05:002012-11-08T02:24:55.538-05:00My first thought was "What about the comb-ove...My first thought was "What about the comb-over?" I have seen some very sad comb-overs in my time. Unlike toupees, comb-overs can never,ever fool anyone, and the self-deception involved reveals volumes about the person concerned. A good toupee goes unnoticed; a comb-over always shrieks out "Look at me, I still want to be considered a player, but I really don't have the confidence to be myself - and who am I really?!" And what about a comb-over in the wind!sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03089147554544285042noreply@blogger.com