tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post4344855880427008229..comments2023-10-20T08:27:40.314-04:00Comments on male pattern boldness: Random thoughts about aging, etc.Peter Lappinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05109154527996679077noreply@blogger.comBlogger88125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-83913721448089929942012-01-15T21:38:53.530-05:002012-01-15T21:38:53.530-05:00Love the diversity of topics you throw out there. ...Love the diversity of topics you throw out there. You always get me thinking!Sunny Optimisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08045203734007272415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-16960151567084306482012-01-14T18:54:39.277-05:002012-01-14T18:54:39.277-05:00Not to far from turning the big "5-0", m...Not to far from turning the big "5-0", my goal is to be healthier and happier. Thank you, Peter, for your post.HeathersSpherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07565226168023427135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-25665596504575706852012-01-10T12:51:49.233-05:002012-01-10T12:51:49.233-05:00Wow, what a great post, Peter. I turned 60 last ye...Wow, what a great post, Peter. I turned 60 last year and it was quite a shock, but while I'm not as cute as I was in my 20s, I'm a whole lot smarter and much more fun to be with. Thank you for making my day.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01948291596947131248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-16567332754715901792012-01-10T01:58:08.485-05:002012-01-10T01:58:08.485-05:00"Fashion cannot make you sexy. Experience mak..."Fashion cannot make you sexy. Experience makes you sexy. Imagination makes people sexy. You have to train yourself, you have to study, and you have to live your life."--Yohji Yamamoto <br /><br />http://www.details.com/style-advice/rules-of-style/200510/japanese-designer-yahji-yamamoto-on-what-is-sexy-for-men#ixzz1j2GM2VfeSexy at 47noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-73475196612639308512012-01-09T16:16:18.421-05:002012-01-09T16:16:18.421-05:00Peter -Thx for the great topic. We love you here o...Peter -Thx for the great topic. We love you here on the left coast.<br />I for one am ready to switch the focus to being attractive! Attractive includes being joyful, compassionate and emotionally generous.<br />It is not based on age! Great style helps, but it is the frosting on the cake. <br />What's the deal about worshipping youth? I am happier every day at 60 than I ever was at 20.<br />Life is good!Jeanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16768062235520667478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-960051799620351122012-01-08T23:20:19.212-05:002012-01-08T23:20:19.212-05:00Flu! Thanks, Russell.Flu! Thanks, Russell.Peter Lappinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05109154527996679077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-43902440736696957442012-01-08T20:33:19.847-05:002012-01-08T20:33:19.847-05:00After your wonderfuln post that made a lot of us f...After your wonderfuln post that made a lot of us feel good for some reason, I'm sort of thinking you aren't. Hope you and Michael are having a great beginning to th new year.Russell1947https://www.blogger.com/profile/14985465806923185400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-1605402386143267142012-01-08T14:56:03.024-05:002012-01-08T14:56:03.024-05:00sexy forever?? not what I want to be.
happy fore...sexy forever?? not what I want to be. <br /><br />happy forever? That I'd love to be!Kayhttp://gentlydowntheseam.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-52062452535813096152012-01-08T02:27:39.074-05:002012-01-08T02:27:39.074-05:00These beauty experts are so tiresome. Can't be...These beauty experts are so tiresome. Can't believe SS is still worrying about her looks at her age. Time to grow up Suzanne.<br /><br />Saro, I'm so sorry, what a terrible loss. Take good care of yourself. My second child was stillborn, can't believe it was it really sixteen years ago. You never get over it, but you'll figure out how to keep going. Thinking of you.Choco Piehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11249035692859813704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-56491745568014428132012-01-08T01:11:01.570-05:002012-01-08T01:11:01.570-05:00I love the doggie stairs!
I'm 62 and wouldn&...I love the doggie stairs! <br /><br />I'm 62 and wouldn't even dream of trying for cute & sexy. My goals now are healthy & dignified. Still, if I decided to relate to the outside world solely in the form of an avatar, I might well choose to look cute & sexy.Barb-Central Texashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14000185202490150402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-75675630501397334862012-01-07T14:06:28.986-05:002012-01-07T14:06:28.986-05:00Lord god, no! "When I am an Old Woman I Shall...Lord god, no! "When I am an Old Woman I Shall Wear Purple" doesn't need "... and worry about whether or not I'm sexy," as part of the title. I enjoy make-up and dressing-up and all that, but I look forward to not worrying about the clothes and things being flattering. Getting beyond the point where anyone would measure my sex appeal would be like breathing after being let out of a corset. <br /><br />The age-defying surgery the stars you mention go in for, when you really look at it, is so bizarre and so fake-looking that it doesn't come off as sexy. All the "cosmetic intervention"* makes these women look false, tired and uncomfortable with themselves, and none of those adjectives are remotely sexy. <br /><br />(*good phrase there, Erzulimojo :)flynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18383667208114103501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-33756246399584606902012-01-07T09:13:06.433-05:002012-01-07T09:13:06.433-05:00I don't feel sexy even at 45 but that is more ...I don't feel sexy even at 45 but that is more due to weight gain than anything else and I'm not talking a few pounds here ;o) However I think sexy is always a state of mind and nothing to do with physicality anyway, sexy isn't about how you look but what you are. <br /><br />I also attest to Valerian smelling vile, to me it always smelt of horse shit, sorry bring the level down!! But it does the job eh?!!Straight Talking Mama!https://www.blogger.com/profile/13010105224878943505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-23191545970686987432012-01-07T05:42:10.737-05:002012-01-07T05:42:10.737-05:00Re sleeping and sexy: if you have space for it go...Re sleeping and sexy: if you have space for it go for the separate bedrooms! It means that doing sex feels like an assignation or date or whatever you called it when when you did it early on. ( Better still,it comes without the cost of dinner and roses, though of course if Michael wants to cook you a lovely dinner or you want to buy him some beautiful roses don't let me stop you.) It also means that you can do whatever you need to get a good sleep without worrying about the smell, look or other impact on your beloved. Works for me and my beloved so far- 22 years and counting.Cleverclogsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-54010950652964967602012-01-07T05:12:03.231-05:002012-01-07T05:12:03.231-05:00I'm tired of sexy, really. It's such an ov...I'm tired of sexy, really. It's such an overused word, an overused standard and has very little to do with what makes people amazing. It's just another feeling, like indigestion. <br /><br />I saw Jane Fonda interviewed somewhere recently who was expounding the virtues of taking testosterone in order to increase her libido. This really saddened me that her measure of vitality was about how often she had sex and being sexy. Really, at 70 this is all she seemed to have to talk about, sex and exercise. I'd hope by 70 there was greater wisdom to have shared than the same old stuff she was selling in the 60'sGennyhttp://www.grannygcrafts.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-46822507118755915542012-01-06T23:44:22.475-05:002012-01-06T23:44:22.475-05:00Wonderful post. I wear three hats on this one, wi...Wonderful post. I wear three hats on this one, will speak from two. First, as the sister of two beauty queens, the energy, time & money invested in looks was staggering. My sisters now miss being Queens of the May (no pun intended), but only one of them has developed a sense of herself and the real world that lets her put away the poufy dresses and grow up. The other one is incredibly sad and bitter. The effect on me is the stuff of a different post; I was busy with my education among other things so never got bitten by the beauty bug. I am happier now (at 63) than either of my sisters. <br /><br />Second hat, as a professional journalist. The media can't sell stuff unless people buy it. A lot of people buy ideas to ease the pain of deep psychological fears, like being alone. So we can acknowledge the power of "cultural pressure," but we also have the power to push back and change it by buying more carefully. For example, I would like to see a lot more encouragement and acknowledgement for girls that money management is a useful and important skill, and saving money is a really cool activity. What kind of people are we to encourage our daughters to be spendthrifts on vulgar clothes, yet fail to save for the bigger purposes in life? There is an interesting debate whether the media reflect our values or actually create them; some of each, I'd say. But we don't have to buy the attitudes the professional beauties promote (great term, Peter). Many of the comments I read above address the same distinctions that apply to eroticism as compared to sexiness. As a woman well past 60, I have left sexiness to the 20-year-olds and enjoy the eroticism that is now part of my life. I wish everyone could travel this wonderful road, but some people, like my sister, get stuck. Suzanne Sommers looks stuck to me, a time warp defying biology unsuccessfully, and the sadder for it.Kristinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-38290959390292268432012-01-06T22:38:47.538-05:002012-01-06T22:38:47.538-05:00"Sexy" is a large plastic doll saying &q..."Sexy" is a large plastic doll saying "OH." It is wrapping for an empty package to please undiscriminating baboons with hindquarters highly presented. How tight can Suzanne's plastic surgeon stretch a bongo face on a shrinking skull as the nose and ear lobes grow longer? Forever? Gollum will have his precious sooner.<br /><br />In "Sexy" where is elegance, courage, creativity, curiosity and tenderness that truly makes one desirable? The best we can hope for is the elegance and grace in having a meaningful extraordinary life. If I need choose a wrapping, give me cotton, wool, silk, linen, scissors and many sewing machines! Fine friends, dogs and cats certainly complete the portrait.Tom Marshallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15026704507943805588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-46199691245475266532012-01-06T19:30:51.234-05:002012-01-06T19:30:51.234-05:00I can't get my mind around "forever."...I can't get my mind around "forever." Although I'm closer to 50 then 40, I don't feel older. For example, I realized yesterday that this year will be my 30th High School reunion. Really? Seriously? Wasn't it just like 10 years ago that I graduated? Then I start thinking about friends I've know for over 20 years. How could it be 20 years when it feels more like 5? <br /><br />Personally, the hype that the media tries to sell us about "sexy' really seems more silly as you pointed out. I know a lot of people in there 50's and 60's I think are sexy, and not because they are trying to look or act 20. Sexy is looking good, but its also confidence and character.pcolaspikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17367706141518152121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-508415497690408942012-01-06T18:09:31.185-05:002012-01-06T18:09:31.185-05:00Hello. I often read, rarely comment.
Just few days...Hello. I often read, rarely comment.<br />Just few days ago I watched an interview from 1969 / 1970- can´t remember. But anyhoodle, there she was, Gabrielle Chanel hunched in her large beige sofa telling that women who try to look younger than they are... that´s the most aging thing to do. How true. I think so much of this whole talk of saxywhatever is largely based on different cultures. What is sexy to some, might very well be bordering on vulgarity to some. Perhaps reaching towards one´s own true individuality and personal style might be way more interesting many a time.WeirdRockStarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17388608744555605499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-69577649110219658112012-01-06T16:22:46.735-05:002012-01-06T16:22:46.735-05:00Slapdash Sewist: I think I speak for many here whe...Slapdash Sewist: I think I speak for many here when I say you are hardly on the downhill slide.Harriethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13880173260724402584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-87672174720359112892012-01-06T16:09:51.083-05:002012-01-06T16:09:51.083-05:00Excellent post! "Sexy Forever" does sou...Excellent post! "Sexy Forever" does sound tiring, especially when the definition of sexy is conventional. The harder you chase your youth, the quicker it recedes into the past, I think. I have reached the age where I've peaked in terms of conventional attractiveness/sexiness and it's all "downhill" from here. It's hard to navigate and to know how to feel. Lots of food for thought here and in the comments.The Slapdash Sewisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11668474749166329852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-51530478223763609702012-01-06T14:09:32.037-05:002012-01-06T14:09:32.037-05:00I will let Madeline Kahn as Marlene Dietriech spea...I will let Madeline Kahn as Marlene Dietriech speak for me: "I'm so tired"johannasboudoirhttp://www.etsy.com/shop/johannasboudoirnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-73104254393455713202012-01-06T11:35:24.401-05:002012-01-06T11:35:24.401-05:00With my wildly fluctuating weight (thanks so much,...With my wildly fluctuating weight (thanks so much, prednisone), I've noticed that I seem to become invisible as a 'sex object' after a certain weight. And interestingly enough, I find that the friendships (both with men and with women)that I develop when I'm heavier seem to be deeper and more solid than those that start when I'm thinner and more conventionally 'attractive'.birdmommynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-80989429587046388022012-01-06T10:27:14.491-05:002012-01-06T10:27:14.491-05:00OK then. Everyone else in the world but me knows ...OK then. Everyone else in the world but me knows who this lady is. Having googled her, conclusion is I've missed nothing.snippahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11455223528958815846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-52728087921070239732012-01-06T10:20:21.875-05:002012-01-06T10:20:21.875-05:00I love Joan Baez too.
@Saro: so sorry to hear abo...I love Joan Baez too.<br /><br />@Saro: so sorry to hear about your loss. Hang in there.Peter Lappinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05109154527996679077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991166428290808171.post-60576847744465515992012-01-06T10:16:01.684-05:002012-01-06T10:16:01.684-05:00I really admire Joan Baez. She is more beautiful ...I really admire Joan Baez. She is more beautiful now than in her younger performer days. She isn't trying to look like she's 20 - she has a classy hair and makeup style that enhances her real looks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com